Monday, August 3, 2015

Deployment Tips for Military Spouses


The Coastie Husband is on a Coast Guard Cutter that is very active and gone for many months at a time. (Cutter is a fancy term for a big boat.) This means that we have been through many deployments as a dating couple and now as a married couple. It is never easy to be apart from your spouse, but I have learned there are certain things that help. I thought I'd share a few of those tips with you today.

1. Enlist support. 
While I don't recommend shouting "he's deployed right now" from the highest mountain peak, I do recommend letting your family and close friends know that he's gone. This allows you to build a support system that you can lean on during the tough times. I'm not one for sympathy during a deployment, but I do love having the support of my friends and family. There are going to be times when you need a listening ear or a big hug. These are the people who will be there for you in those times.

2. Take care of you.
This is not the time to let yourself go or to sit around miserable. Give yourself a few days to adjust and then pick yourself back up and focus on you. Continue to take care of yourself during this time. You'll only feel worse if you don't.

3. Do something special for yourself.
This is the perfect time to try a new hobby or watch the show you've been dying to watch. I first started blogging during our first deployment and it's now become a regular hobby. This is the perfect time to focus on your hobbies and interests.

4. Tackle a project (or projects) that you've been putting off.
This last deployment, I finally finished decorating our apartment. The husband came home to a bedroom decorated in Arkansas Razorback decor and a completed office space. I love to decorate so this kept me very busy. I created a list during the last deployment of things I wanted to try or accomplish. I enjoyed crossing things off the list and knowing that I had accomplished something for myself.

5. Create a new habit.
This one is what I'm going to focus on during the next deployment. I'm going to be joining Julie at Girl on the Move for her 100 Day Change movement. I'll be committing to working out every day until it becomes habit. I can't wait to see if I can make this lifestyle change over the course of 100 days. I'll be documenting it on our Instagram. I hope you'll stop by and check out my progress from time to time.

What about you? What are your tips for dealing with deployment or time away from your spouse?

1 comment:

  1. These are great tips! This is one of my favorite posts I've ever read. You might like it! http://www.whimsicalseptember.com/2015/04/dear-newlywed-military-wife-facing-your.html

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