Monday, October 12, 2015

Keeping in Touch Despite the Distance

The idea for this post came to me during an email session with the husband. It started as a post about deployments and how to keep in touch during them. Then, it evolved into a post about keeping in touch during a long distance relationship (which we did for a year). Finally, I settled on making it a general post about keeping in touch despite the distance. I'm going to be talking about things that can apply to romantic relationships, friendships, or family. With military families, you are often in a position of long distance from someone you love whether it's your spouse, friends, or family.

Below you're find several ways of keeping in touch with others when you're separated by distance. I've broken it up into categories to make it a little easier.

By Phone:

Instead of texting or emailing, call the people that you're close with on special occasions. A phone call where someone hears your voice means a lot more than text on a screen.

Schedule "phone dates" with others. Set aside a day of the week and make phone calls together a regular thing. It's the perfect time to catch up on each other's lives and talk about all things random.

By Text:

Text is a great way to send quick updates or make quick comments to others.

You can carry on conversations with others via texting. It's perfect when you're trying to multi task or unable to use the phone to talk.

Use texting to send fun pictures to others. You can send pictures of kids or pets in addition to fun selfies and other random things. Sometimes a picture says more than written words.

Find a great link? Send it to your friend via text. It's the perfect place to share things you enjoy with others.

By Email:

Want to send a longer update to a friend but don't have time to call? Email them a letter updating them on everything going on.

Use the attachments feature on emails to send pictures, documents, and other surprises to your friends and family. It's an easy way to send everyone something bigger at the same time. Email allows a few more options than texting can.

Send fun ecards and memes via email. I have been sending the husband daily funnies via email during this latest deployment. Email is our primary form of contact when he's out to sea so I try to make the most of it. 

By Social Media:

Social media provides the perfect place to keep in touch with a mass quantity of people at a time. I use Instagram and Facebook to post general updates for all friends and family. It makes things easier than texting an update to a bunch of people at one time.

Some forms of social media, like Snapchat, can be used to send silly pictures and messages to other people.

Social media provides a creative outlet for keeping in touch with others. You can keep up with each other's lives without much effort. This can be a good thing or a bad thing. I do not recommend using social media as your only method of keeping in touch with others.

By Snail Mail:

Don't forget the classic art of letter writing! Snail mail is underrated today and doesn't get used as often as it could. Just think how surprised your friend will be when he/she opens a letter from you!

Send a card. I love sending Christmas cards and so do a lot of people. What if we extended that tradition to other holidays as well? Make sure you have an address book full of your favorite people and take a little bit of time to spread some love via snail mail.

Send a present or care package! Don't forget that you can send items via mail for others to enjoy. Know a friend that's having a rough time? You might not be able to provide a hug like normal but you could send them something small to cheer them up.

In Person:

This option will probably be used sparingly but it is one that's worth listing. Don't forget to schedule regular trips to see the people that you love. Nothing beats seeing someone in person!

What's your favorite method of keeping in touch across the miles? Are you a classic snail mail lover or are electronic methods more your style? Let me know in the comments! I'd love to hear how you keep in touch with the ones you love.


  1. I live in a different country than my family, the internet is fantastic to keep in contact - emails and social media, it just adds an extra layer to reaching out to family and friends x

  2. While Casey has been at school, we've only gotten to do snail mail- I've sent him about 19 letters and only gotten on back, but it was the most glorious thing in the world!
    We're big texters, but I also love a good facetime date!

  3. This is such a great post! My boyfriend lives in another country, so the distance is hard at times, but it's made so much easier with technology and the Internet!

  4. The internet is a great thing when you are away from loved ones. I love skype and Google Hangout for when I'm away from them!

  5. Great tips and ideas! Long distance relationships aren't for the faint of heart!

  6. I know about deployments... so rough. I do not miss those at all. We did just about everything to talk every single day. My huz was great about calling me every night the second time. These are good tips; we live away from our whole families so we do all these with them, too.

  7. I love the internet for this! You can be close without being close!

  8. I am very introverted so these are my lifelines to family and friends. This is a great list of ways to reach out no matter the distance.

  9. I feel nostalgic for the times when you were written letters, everything seems so impersonal these days. If a guy sent me a letter I would treasure it far more than a text message.

  10. I love skype and WhatsApp that keeps me connected with my brother who lives in another country
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  11. It's amazing all the ways people can stay in touch these days.

  12. Technology is so amazing! I love that families can connect even when theyre far apart!

  13. While I love technology for keeping in touch, I still love snail mail for the personal touch. I made it a person goal to write a handwritten note to someone once a week this year!

  14. Long distance is tough, regardless of the relationship style. I really like to send things by mail--letters, cards, and care packages--as the tangible nature and the effort that goes into is really appreciated.

  15. Most of my friends and family are thousands of miles away so I'm pretty good at keeping people up to date on things! Thank god for social media and text messages! Makes long distance friendships not as hard to keep!

  16. Love these ideas. I never had s long distance relationship but even meeting a new friend is easy.

  17. I love that I can facetime with my children that live far away. Even Denmark doesn't seem sooo far away when I can see my daughter smile!

  18. Keeping in touch is something I admit I'm not really good at. This post is a good reminder to try to me proactive at it. Thanks for sharing! :)

  19. I am always excited to get snail mail! These are great ways to keep in touch, no matter the cause of the distance!

  20. we live in a new age of skype and viedochats, its easier for us, but you need to know some rules here you can read them!enjoy

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