Friday, January 1, 2016

Why You Should Set Goals Together

It's the new year! It's also a popular time for new year resolutions. While I'm not a big fan of resolutions, I do believe in looking ahead and making plans for the future. I simply prefer to think of them as goals, which is what we'll be talking about today.

Before marriage, I set all of my goals by myself. I was living alone and it was much easier to reach my goals. I didn't feel a need to share the goals with anyone because they were my goals. Then, I got married and moved in with the husband and things suddenly changed. Goals were suddenly harder to reach because making changes for myself was harder to do when there was someone else around.

I've found a solution though and it's the solution to most things in life and in marriage - communication. It's important to communicate what your goals are with your husband or significant other. It's hard for someone to support you if they don't know what you're working towards. It's much easier to stick to my goals when I have someone else supporting me.

This year, I thought it was important to take it a step further. Instead of simply setting goals for myself, I felt it was important for us to set goals together. We're a joined unit now and that should be reflected in our goals and choices. I'm not going to share our goals on the blog because some of them are personal but I do encourage you to sit down and talk about the future with your significant other. It's the perfect opener for discussing goals and what you want to accomplish in 2016.

Do you set goals at the onset of a new year? Are they always independent or do you sometimes do joint goals?

1 comment:

  1. I love this idea! I hadn't thought about setting goals as a couple but it makes so much sense! We're traversing this year together- aligning our goals is perfect. Thanks for the idea!