Thursday, February 4, 2016

Valentine's Day & Deployments

Valentine's Day - it's right around the corner and a holiday filled with mixed emotions and opinions. It's also the topic for #LoveBlog today. I figured I'd discuss how I'll be spending Valentine's Day this year. (Hint: it's the same way I've spent it the past couple of years.)


How will you be spending Valentine's Day?

This is the question that was asked along with today's prompt. I'll get to the answer soon, but first, I want to give you some background on my relationship with Valentine's Day. 

My husband and I have been in a relationship for a total of four Valentines. Of those four, we've only spent one together and that was our very first Valentine's Day. He's been deployed for all of the other ones. Honestly, I believe anniversaries are the true celebration of love because they are personal.

Valentine's Day is a holiday though and I like to celebrate holidays. As a result, I have created my own method of celebrating Valentine's Day. Essentially, I set up a date with myself.

I pick out a favorite meal. (Not going to lie - it's often pizza.) Then, I pick out my favorite chick flicks for a movie marathon. There's often a bath in there somewhere and a glass of wine. All in all, it's a great day spent with one of my favorite people - myself! (You've gotta love yourself, right?)

For years, I let Valentine's Day be a negative day when I was single. Then, one year I decided to turn it around and enjoy the holiday. I decorated my apartment in red, white, and pink with hearts and flowers everywhere. I figured that I would have to give that up someday when I was married. (I was wrong - I still decorate for the holiday with the same color scheme.) I also decided to watch all of the girly movies that I love and to enjoy the day as much as possible. I didn't look back after that - every year was dedicated to dating myself.

Until a special boyfriend (the husband) came along. I honestly wasn't sure what to expect for Valentine's Day because I had never really been in a relationship for it. (At least not since high school.) I made him a small, simple gift and he got me something small in return. I came home from work and we picked out a movie together (we actually agreed on the first try). The rest of the evening was spent getting tacos and going to the movies. It was a pretty average date and I'm happy for that.

Over the years, I've learned one major thing about love - the grand, public gestures aren't the ones that matter. It's the small things that matter most. So, a special date for a commercialized holiday doesn't mean near as much as the unique, spontaneous date that happens as a result of love.

I'm sure you've figured out my answer by now, but I'll go ahead and share it anyways. I'll be spending Valentine's Day on a date with myself. I haven't quite worked out all of the details yet but I'm thinking there might be a pedicure and spa night involved...

How will you be spending Valentine's Day? Is it a happy holiday for you?


9 comments:

  1. I impulse bought a flight to go spend Valentine's Day in Georgia with Casey! I'm sorry you and your husband won't be together, but I hope you'll be together again soon!

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    1. I'm so glad you got to go see him! I would totally impulse buy a flight if I was in your situation too! I don't think they have flights to boats in the middle of the sea though. LOL

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  2. This sounds awesome! Although if it was me, I'd make sure I had a big box of chocolates, that I bought myself, to enjoy along with a movie.

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    1. I ended up with pizza, which I'll take any day over chocolates. I was also trying hard to stay on track with my healthy eating. :) (I did enjoy one piece of chocolate though!)

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  3. Sometimes showing yourself love is just as important! I hope you enjoy your day!

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    1. It was a great day! Much better than I expected it to be!

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  4. I'm not entirely sure how I feel about Valentine's Day any more. This year, we're HOPING to be out of town (got some calling to do today to see if I can get a pet sitter and a hotel with less than a week till the big day!) I think I just think of it like another day. Kinda like most holidays now.

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    1. I tend to think of it as another day too. I don't think we'd even "celebrate" it if he was home. I just try to make it special for myself when he's away so that I'm not staring at all of the sappy social media posts. :)

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