Thursday, March 10, 2016

How to Bond Together as a Married Couple after Deployment

One of my favorite things about deployments is the homecoming. It can also be one of the trickiest parts of deployment since it means adjustments for both spouses. Today, I'm bringing you a post from Julie at Soldier's Wife, Crazy Life with tips on how to bond together after deployment. (She has some really good tips guys!)

Homecoming can be such a wonderful time for a Military couple. Homecoming means the deployment is over and life can get back to “normal.” However, normal is sometimes a part of the past and the couple needs to figure out how to bond again after so much time away from one another.

Whether you have been apart just a couple of months or over a year, redeployment can be a difficult period of time to try to get back into marriage mode.

Here are a few ideas to help you bond again after deployment:

Date Nights

Dating is so important, even after you are married. Dating can be a way to connect and spend time with each other. Time to just be together without the kids, work or the home getting in the way. See what you can do to get in a regular date night whether you take advantage of something you Military post has available, you trade kids with a friend or hire an actual babysitter. If you don’t have children, make sure you schedule time to go on dates and don’t just count your time at home away from work as a date night. Be intentional about spending quality time together.


Communication is a must in that time after deployment. Share your feelings with one another. Let them know if they are doing something that is bothering you. Talk it out. You might not be able to talk about everything that happened during the time that you were apart but it is a good idea to connect and see how you changed during the deployment.

Keeping the lines of communication is always important but even more so after you have been through a deployment. If you need to, set up some time with a marriage counselor. They can help you come up with methods to talk to each other if that becomes something that is hard for you two to do.

Be patient with one other

Being patient with your spouse is always a good thing, especially after a deployment. It might be hard to understand what your spouse went through when they were overseas. Being patient with them is a must. On the other side, they need to be patient with you. You got used to being the only adult in the house and the redeployment process will mean losing some control. This can be difficult and can take some time to work through.

 Homecoming is amazing but the redeployment process can be a struggle. You might feel too far from your spouse emotionally and find it hard to get back to where you once were. If both of you can work together on your marriage and work hard to bond again after deployment, you can eventually get there. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help and know that you guys are not alone in figuring out how to be a couple once a deployment has ended.

What are your tips for bonding together as a marriage couple after deployment?

Julie is a blogger & social media addict living in Tennessee. She has been married for 13 years to her National Guard Soldier and has three boys, 11, 9 & 5. You can find her at Soldier’s Wife, Crazy Life where she blogs about Military life, parenting and a few other topics. You can also find her on Twitter and Facebook.


  1. very easy!thank you, and do you have marriage equal relationships in your marriage?

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