Friday, February 17, 2017

Creating a Wish List Instead of Setting Goals

Some of the prompts for #LoveBlog spark an idea for a post right away. Others take a while and I have to simply wait for inspiration to come to me. Today's prompt is one of those that made me wait for inspiration. However, when inspiration finally came, it presented me with the perfect idea. In case you're wondering, today's prompt is "wish" and I'm going to be sharing my thoughts on creating a "wish" list rather than a "goals" list and how it can benefit you.

I've always been a big fan of setting goals. In fact, the goal of becoming a teacher is what kept me on track in school and helped me earn scholarships for college. While long term goals were great for me growing up, I've found that they're a little harder to focus on as an adult because life has so many variables and is rarely predictable - especially as a military family with a newborn.

Even though long term goals seem near impossible to set, I still thrive on the idea of looking to the future and aiming big. I don't see the benefit in setting goals that may or may not be realistic. This is where the concept of a wishlist comes in.

A wish is something you desire. However, unlike a goal, it is something that you have little to no control over. If you don't achieve it, it's not due to effort but often do to other factors. This definition and the unpredictable nature of wishes is what makes them a better fit for our family than long term goals.  (I want to note that we still set goals - they are simply on a smaller scale of one year or less.)

For those dreams that are more long term, I'm proposing the idea of starting a wish list. Much like a goal list, our wish list will help guide us towards the future that we'd like to build. However, the wish list will allow for the flexibility we need as a military family with a highly unpredictable future. (We can't guarantee where we'll be living from year to year - let alone what we'll be doing.)

I'm going to share three items from my wish list below and then I want to encourage you to do the same.

1. I wish to expand our family by at least one more in the future.

2. I wish to establish a successful work from.home lifestyle for the first few years of my children's life.

3. I wish for my son to grow up happy and strong.

What items would make it on to your wish list?


  1. I like your perspective on the difference between wishes and goals.

  2. Ditto to Brita: what an interesting concept of doing a wish list rather than goal list!

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