Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Long Distance Relationships: Three Questions to Ask

Today's prompt for #LoveBlog couldn't be more perfect for us. The prompt is "long distance," which is something we have a lot of experience with. As a military family, we have a lot of distance between us and our family and friends. In addition to this distance, we also did a year of long distance dating before getting married. Deciding to give long distance dating a try was not an easy decision for us but it's one that I'm glad we made. Today, I thought I'd share three questions that you should ask yourself before entering into a long distance relationship.

Below are three of the questions I asked myself before deciding to pursue the long distance phase of our relationship. We had to make this decision after 8 months of dating when the husband was reassigned to a ship in California (as far from SC as he could go without leaving the country!). We had been dating long enough to see potential in our relationship but not long enough to know if we could survive the distance.

Will you regret not giving it a go?
This was the most important question that I asked myself. I don't believe in regretting decisions and I often use that as a basis for the decisions I make. For this question, I looked to the future. Could I see myself asking "what would have been" if we didn't try it out? I found the answer to be yes which gave me an indication that we should pursue long distance dating.

What obstacles lie ahead?
This next question was important because it meant I wasn't living with my head in the clouds. I recommend looking at the obstacles you might face before making your decision. Long distance isn't easy and comes with many challenges. While you can't predict them all, you can at least recognize the challenges that lie ahead.

Are you willing to put in the time and effort needed?
This one is a big one. Every relationship takes time and effort to make it successful. Long distance relationships take just a little bit more because you're working with more obstacles. If you're not willing to adjust to a different style of dating, then long distance might not work out for you.

Long distance dating isn't easy but it can be done and it can be successful. It's not a fit for everyone though, which is why I recommend taking your time to make the best decision for you and your relationship before diving headfirst into long distance dating.

Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? We'd love to hear your story in the comments below!


  1. I think I asked these exact questions myself multiple times throughout our LDR.

  2. Dan and I started out long-distance, and it honestly happened almost by accident. We had gone on a handful of dates while I was in Ohio, but then I moved to New York. Neither of us wanted to start an LDR. But whaddya know, we skyped and emailed and texted and IMed and talked on the phone... One thing led to another, and suddenly I was in love with this person who wouldn't become my boyfriend for another month.

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