Friday, February 2, 2018

Valentine's Day and the Military Spouse

Welcome to Day 2 of Love Blog hosted by Bella Brita! Everyone is entitled to their opinion and ours is that Valentine's Day is a commercial event. When it comes to celebrating our love, we prefer to do so randomly and for our special occasions instead (anniversaries, important dates, etc). In fact, we've spent many years apart with just a simple "Happy Valentine's Day" sent via email or text.

Long ago, I used to think that Valentine's Day would be different when I was in a relationship. In fact, I spent many years enjoying the holiday with a chick flick marathon. I never felt like I was missing out on anything, but I did always wonder what it would be like to have a "valentine" for the holiday. Then, I  met my husband and realized that Valentine's Day was just another day - especially in the life of a military spouse.

We've been together for five years. Of those five years, we've spent two Valentines together. One of those was our first year of dating and we did enjoy a simple night out with dinner at a favorite (low key) place and a movie we both actually agreed on. Otherwise, it was nothing special and it definitely wasn't over the top. The other year that we spent together was last year and we were sleep deprived and learning how to be parents. (Okay, I don't know for sure that we were sleep deprived nine days into parenthood, but I do know that we were a bit overwhelmed and there was no thought of Valentine's Day other than cute pictures of our kid.) The other three years - well, we were miles apart and a simple "Happy Valentine's Day" via email was probably the best we could do.

Now, this is a quick glimpse into the history of Valentine's Day in our relationship. Why am I sharing this glimpse? I'm not really sure, other than it's the topic that came to mind when I saw the prompt for Love Blog. I do know one thing - our love and relationship has not suffered one bit by being apart on Valentine's Day. Sure, I could get upset by it and wallow in self pity, but I don't. Instead, I find a unique way to spend the holiday (because I love holidays in general) and keep moving forward.

This year is another one that will be spent apart, but I'm sure that I'll find something special for Baby Fox and me to do together. If the weather cooperates, we may even go visit Daddy at work. No matter how we spend the day, I'm sure it'll be special because every day is special when you spend it with those you love. (Totally cliche, but also totally true!)

Spending Valentine's Day alone? Need an idea to make it more fun? Here's a few!
1. Movie marathon
2. At home spa day
3. Go out with the girls
4. Cook yourself a fancy new recipe
5. Make and send cards to friends and family
6. Get crafty
7. Find somewhere new to explore
8. Try out a yoga class
9. Enjoy a nice long bubble bath
10. Use the day as an excuse to indulge in your favorite dessert

How will you be spending Valentine's Day? What's your opinion on the holiday?

Psst...don't forget to check out this week's giveaway!

Today we're a cohost of the Love Blog Challenge along with these lovely ladies:

Brita Long is the pink and sparkly personality behind the Christian feminist lifestyle blog, Belle Brita. While her first love will always be Paris, she lives happily with her husband Daniel Fleck in the Atlanta area.

Pam is one half of The Coastie Couple. She is a teacher turned blogger that shares her family's adventures and recipes on the blog. She currently lives in Michigan with her husband, baby boy, and two dogs. You can often find her exploring the local area to find hidden gems to share on the blog. She enjoys travel, wine, writing, and playtime.

Kayla Whitter is a 20-something INFJ and Hufflepuff. She works full-time at a local university, goes to graduate school, and runs the lifestyle blog A Paper Arrow. Her favorite things include reading, drinking coffee, eating Chick-fil-A and Mexican food, and hanging out with her hubby and cat (Courage).

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  1. I think Valentine's Day will be even more fun with kids. My parents always gave us nice cards and sometimes little gifts. Like one year my mom picked out a heart-shaped ring with red stones. Costume jewelry, of course, but I loved it! She would also make us a special breakfast, like pancakes or French toast, when Valentine's Day was a school day.

  2. Valentine's Day is a commercial holiday. We celebrate by exchanging cards and a small gift. My husband has gotten me a dozen roses every year for 17 years. It's just a fun tradition. Other than that we do bigger celebrations for other "holidays" that are important to us. Like our birthdays, anniversary, Christmas.

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